"Kell I'm not just talking about recently. I've been watching you two for over a year now." Istredd may not have been close to them all that time ago, but he's a very observant person. He kept an eye on everyone from an outside perspective until he was drawn into a more personal perspective. If anything, his observation only seemed more true the closer he got.
It's a complicated situation because he doesn't want it to seem like a criticism of either of them, family will always be important. He doesn't have one of them, but he does understand, considering he now has one in Thorne. He would put his life on the line for any of them; he did almost die for them in the Pit, and he'll never regret that.
"I'm concerned the way you see the world and the way you value yourself is all about another person. You aren't the supporting player of your own life, you are the lead in your own story. And I'm saying that as someone who has been there." Istredd still struggles with his mindset of other people having more value than himself. He isn't saying this from a place of looking down at it, he's seeing himself in the situation and saying what he wishes he would have heard.
"Maybe you have your own things, but you don't value them more than what his things are, do you? I care about both of you, this is not an attack on your relationship, what I'm saying is you need to be able to live without him. You need your own life and to value that life for your own future. Because around here, everything can change in an instant."
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It's a complicated situation because he doesn't want it to seem like a criticism of either of them, family will always be important. He doesn't have one of them, but he does understand, considering he now has one in Thorne. He would put his life on the line for any of them; he did almost die for them in the Pit, and he'll never regret that.
"I'm concerned the way you see the world and the way you value yourself is all about another person. You aren't the supporting player of your own life, you are the lead in your own story. And I'm saying that as someone who has been there." Istredd still struggles with his mindset of other people having more value than himself. He isn't saying this from a place of looking down at it, he's seeing himself in the situation and saying what he wishes he would have heard.
"Maybe you have your own things, but you don't value them more than what his things are, do you? I care about both of you, this is not an attack on your relationship, what I'm saying is you need to be able to live without him. You need your own life and to value that life for your own future. Because around here, everything can change in an instant."